How To Make A Woman Come
(With Oral Sex, Touch, Toys
One of the biggest problems
in sexual relationships between men and women is the fact that so many men
believe they "should" be able to make a woman come during sexual intercourse. Yet
very few women can reach orgasm through penile thrusting alone, and some women
remain unable to reach orgasm at all.
On this website, we look at
all these issues. We offer some suggestions abut how men and
women can enjoy orgasms in various ways. We also focus on how women who have
difficulty reaching orgasm can discover new ways to enjoy orgasmic pleasure.
We start with a look at why
oral sex can be great for all couples... and why it's a great way to give a
woman orgasms. Here's how...
Pleasuring A Woman With Cunnilingus
Before we get into the details of oral pleasure, let's remember sex is not just
about what happens in the bedroom.
It's also about romance, and about the man seducing the woman slowly, which
allows her to anticipate the pleasure of sex and the intimate emotional
involvement she will have with her partner during sexual activity. The same is
true in reverse, of course.
How To Give A Woman An Orgasm -
Simple Steps to Female Pleasure!
1. Remember a woman's biggest sexual organ is her
mind. Any man who cares about his woman's sexual pleasure will know that the
anticipation of sex is a major step in the enjoyment of it.
2. Ensure you both are sexually aroused so you will get the most pleasure. This
means spending plenty of time - between fifteen and twenty minutes - on
foreplay, touching, kissing, eye-gazing, talking, and loving in your own sweet
3. Be romantic. Remember, to become fully sexually aroused, a woman needs
both a sense of
anticipation and gentle stimulation in a safe environment to
relax her, get her fully into her body, and ensure that she's comfortable
with the prospect of sex with her partner.
4. Keep your expectations realistic. Not all women want to reach orgasm on every occasion
they have sex, and not every woman wants to have sex on every occasion her man
would like her to do so.
5. Enjoy plenty of foreplay. Have at least 15 or 20 minutes of foreplay
so you are sure that her body and mind are both aroused
and ready for sex.
6. Use a variety of stimulation methods. Foreplay can take the form of gentle touching, caressing, kissing,
looking into each other's eyes, lying together side-by-side, and communicating
spiritually or emotionally rather than physically.
7. Try to establish both intimate physical and
emotional connection before sexual activity begins.
8. Be willing to give your partner an orgasm by
means of oral sex before penetration. Oral sex or cunnilingus is great for
pleasuring a woman, because it is in fact, the easiest way for many women to
9. Be interested in your partner's sexual pleasure.
One of the problems with this concept is that men are often bored by the idea of
extended foreplay and giving a woman an orgasm by oral pleasure before
And don't be scared of a woman not wanting
intercourse as a result! Any man who's tried this approach will know that the end result can
be very enjoyable intercourse with your woman after she's enjoyed her orgasm.
And that's a lot more rewarding than
trying for penetration before she's ready.
Making Sex Better
author of She Comes First, makes the point that oral
sex is not just a part of foreplay, a superficial thing done on the
route to a man's objective of vaginal penetration. Instead, oral sex or
cunnilingus can be the way your woman reaches orgasm before penetration
For this to become a reality, the man needs to
be compassionate, loving, respectful, and very focused on what he's doing.
In other words, he almost needs to put his own pleasure aside while he brings
his partner to orgasm by means of cunnilingus.
However, the great
advantage of this is is that if he happens to have erectile dysfunction of
any kind, this is a great way to both give and receive sexual pleasure. Giving
in this way avoids the need for an erection.
To do this, he needs to have a clear intention about doing so; he needs to
devote the time to doing it; and he needs to have the right sexual techniques.
These techniques will involve finding the right physical position, one in which
he is comfortable, and his female partner is also comfortable - perhaps for an
extended period of oral sexual stimulation.
The best sex position is to have the woman lying on her back on the bed fully
supported, with her head supported by pillows, and her legs slightly apart,
possibly with her knees slightly raised and also apart.
In this way the man may give his partner an orgasm easily
and as he lies between her legs, on his belly, ensuring that he's comfortable,
with his arms supported on pillows, or wrapped around her thighs.
If the bed isn't large enough, he can take a position kneeling on the floor as
she lies with her back on the bed and her legs draped over the edge, her vulva
exposed to his mouth.
When the physical position for oral sex has been achieved, the man's pleasuring
technique is also critical: as many men know, a woman can't take much
stimulation to her clitoris until she's quite highly sexually aroused. This
gives a woman much pleasure, whether she orgasm or not.
sensitivity of her labia, perineum, vaginal entrance, and the area around her
vulva, more than make up for his inability to stimulate the clitoris at the
beginning of sexual pleasure.
Long slow licks along the entire length of the vulva combined with movements of
his fingers and hands over her buttocks, thighs, and belly, can be extremely
sexually arousing, and give his partner great sensuous pleasure.
Provided that she is relaxed, and able to open up her mind the possibility of
reaching orgasm through oral stimulation, so long as the man applies stimulation
in a rhythmic and regular fashion, she should be able to reach orgasm within 10
to 20 minutes.
By doing this it is possible for a man to help a woman
achieve orgasm fairly quickly.
What's important is that the man does not continually change
the rhythm or type of movement that he is making with his tongue – and, as we've
already discussed, it's important that he doesn't stimulate the clitoris before
his woman's ready for this.
Oral sex shouldn't just involve the man's tongue, because when he uses his fingers
at the same time, he can add to the level of stimulation that his partner
receives, thereby increasing the chance of her reaching orgasm.
Some stimulation that is suggested in Women Come First includes the following:
gently tracing fingers up and down the edges of her inner labia, squeezing and
pinching them, and actually exploring her vulva, whilst noting how she responds
to simulation in different areas. (Read about the female
For example, stimulating the smooth area above her
clitoral head, and down each side of her vulva, where the clitoral shafts lie; tapping
her frenulum, which is the area just below the clitoral head and above the
entrance to the vagina – roughly where the inner labia meet.
Another idea is tickling the
entrance to her vagina, or engaging in shallow penetration with a fingertip; and inserting perhaps one or
two inches of the finger into the vagina, checking for her lubrication and
arousal, and sensing how her body responds to the gentle penetration.
There are of course many other movements, but the point is that whilst and a
woman's lover tries any of these, the man should also be applying tongue strokes
to the smooth soft skin of her vulva.
I haven't yet checked this out, but I am
also wondering if the extended pleasuring and complete focus that a man can
offer during cunnilingus might be an effective way to stimulate men with orgasm problems to a higher level of sexual arousal so that they stand a better
chance of being able to ejaculate during intercourse.
Another level of sophistication can be added by inserting the thumb just inside
the entrance to her vagina, then moving it in a shallow fashion and stimulating
the surface of the vulva when it emerges.
Kerner recommends using the thumb in combination with the index finger: he
suggests that when the index finger is actually inserted into the entrance of
the woman's vagina, a man can rotate his thumb around so that it is in the six
After this, he can then gently move it over her perineum, or he can rotate it
back up to the 12 o'clock position, and use it to massage the area just below
the woman's clitoral head whilst his finger stays in her vaginal entrance.
At the same time, it's extremely useful to place a hand under her buttocks and
cradle them firmly – one hand can squeeze both cheeks together, while the other
hand continues to provide the finger work that is described above.
If you are a woman who is
seeking to become orgasmic, and you're in a relationship with a partner who you
trust, and you are looking for the pleasure of oral sex as a possible route to
orgasm, then this is a book which is absolutely essential reading and I strongly
recommend that you buy it for your partner.
This book enables men to discover how to give a woman
an orgasm. It lets men take women to orgasm easily.
But, after all, you may wonder, why a book?
The answer is that I sometimes feel a certain level of education and knowledge
is a great asset in the advancement of sexual experience and pleasure.
After all, we often overlook the obvious as human beings, both in our everyday
lives and in our sex lives; getting help from somebody who is an expert in the
field can do no harm.
In his book, Ian Kerner talks about every single aspect of oral pleasuring and
how it can impact on a man's ability to give a woman an orgasm during cunnilingus.
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